Thursday, August 05, 2004

My Stepson the Sociopath Current Update

Here's a little update:

He called our house last night from TN. where he'd been staying first in the Salvation Army and then at "some guys house"....I assume someone he met in rehab. His probation got transferred back to PA. and his probation officer said he wanted him in his office by Monday morning. My husband bought him a Greyhound bus ticket on-line so he could get there.

So he calls us last night saying that his mother and grandmother both said they could not/would not pick him up at the bus station.He wanted my husband to Western Union him some money. Of course, husband tells him "I don't think so..." and Thomas hung up on him, which sent my husband into a, well, sort of, RAGE.....

Sunday, August 01, 2004

My Stepson the Sociopath Part I

My stepson, the sociopath drug addict, Thomas, has been diagnosed with ADHD , depression and anxiety, yet he is an extremely smart kid. He made straight A's all during school, scored a 1300 on his SAT, was accepted and briefly attended a prestigious University in the Northeast, majoring in pre-med. He got kicked out because a faculty member saw him deliberately stab himself in the foot in a biology lab. Said he was a danger to himself and the other students. Several weeks prior, he had an "accident" in his dorm room where he claimed to have "cut his hand while changing a light bulb". He ended up in the hospital with a STAF infection and had to have surgery. Over the years, my husband has bought him 3 cars, all of which Thomas wrecked or destroyed. He stole his Aunt's credit card and charged $1000 on it because he "thought she was a bitch". He racked up a $900 phone bill on his father's business account. He stole his Grandmother's jewelry and his brother's entire CD collection. He's been arrested for burglary and drug possession. He's been in jail, half-way houses and homeless. Last year, he befriended a young girl who let him stay at her apartment for a while in Philadelphia. He used her credit card to order over $400 worth of prescription drugs on the internet. He has never held a job for more than 3 months. He is a compulsive liar. He uses his charm and good looks to befriend people, then fucks them over.

Well, this is how demented the little fucker is. He self-inflicts wounds on himself so he can go to a hospital and get drugs. I'm not talking about cutting. I'm talking STABBING. He is still on my husband's family insurance plan, and Thomas has the system down pat. He knows if he shows up at a hospital claiming to be suicidal, they will admit him. In the past 2 years, he has gone to the emergency room 32 times and has seen various doctors and psychiatrists. His mother, grandmother, and brother want nothing to do with him. Before he left for rehab 6 weeks ago, he claimed to have "cut his hand while cutting a piece of chicken". His thumb was literally, like, hanging off the side of his hand. He was in a rehab in Tennessee until last Thursday, when he got caught crushing and snorting another kid's Ritilan. I am not a health care professional, but I did some research and found the following:


"Antisocial Personality Disorder is also known as psychopathy or sociopathy. Individuals with this disorder have little regard for the feeling and welfare of others. As a clinical diagnosis it is usually limited to those over age 18. It can be diagnosed in younger people if the they commit isolated antisocial acts and do not show signs of another mental disorder.

Antisocial Personality Disorder is chronic, beginning in adolescence and continuing throughout adulthood. There are ten general symptoms:

not learning from experience

no sense of responsibility

inability to form meaningful relationships

inability to control impulses

lack of moral sense

chronically antisocial behavior

no change in behavior after punishment

emotional immaturity

lack of guilt


People with this disorder may exhibit criminal behavior. They may not work. If they do work, they are frequently absent or may quit suddenly. They do not consider other people's wishes, welfare or rights. They can be manipulative and may lie to gain personal pleasure or profit. They may default on loans, fail to provide child support, or fail to care for their dependents adequately. High risk sexual behavior and substance abuse are common. Impulsiveness, failure to plan ahead, aggressiveness, irritability, irresponsibility, and a reckless disregard for their own safety and the safety of others are traits of the antisocial personality.
Socioeconomic status, gender, and genetic factors play a role. Males are more likely to be antisocial than females. Those from lower socioeconomic groups are more susceptible. A family history of the disorder puts one at higher risk.

There are many theories about the cause of Antisocial Personality Disorder including experiencing neglectful parenting as a child, low levels of certain neurotransmitters in the brain, and belief that antisocial behavior is justified because of difficult circumstances. Psychotherapy, group therapy, and family therapy are common treatments. The effects of medical treatment are inconclusive.Unfortunately, most people with Antisocial Personality Disorder reject treatment. Therefore, recovery rates are low."